"Working on Monday"- Are You Training for The Future?

I was asked to do an interview with a local news station.  WDIV News 4 selected me to discuss the President's State of the Union Address and my reactions as an unemployed American.  I was humbled, nervous and excited.  I had to arrive at the at 5:45am, know the presidents speech and look good!  I have a new respect for early morning news casters. 

President Obama's speech was inspiring.  As a blogger, I look to the internet for the continued success of my blog.  The President's message to me... I am going in the right direction.  His continued emphasis on information technology seem solid.  President Obama also made it clear that research, education and energy would be significant strategies to ensure employment.  The world is changing.  The work place is becoming virtual and manufacturing plants are producing different types of products.

I am a 40 year old woman with many work years ahead of me.  Not only is the workplace changing but the entire infrastructure is being re-molded.  Are you training for the future?  If you are lucky enough to be working in an auto factory, are you looking at different products to assemble, make and produce?  If you are a gas station owner are you educating yourself on alternative forms of fuel?  If you are a secretary, are you learning how to become a virtual assistant online?  If you do not prepare yourself for the forward movement of the world, where will you be tomorrow?

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Changing careers or navigating a new direction can be very difficult.  The challenges are even greater if you are comfortable and are forced to move.  If you are a working adult of any age know your options and train for the future.  Here are some suggestions to get you started.

1. Research your current field of employment or interest.  See where it is going and if it has the ability to manifest in the future.  Find out how the job may change and prepare a plan to get the needed training.  If there is not a lot of information available you may have to predict the outcome based on jobs that directly effect your own.
2. Read up on information technology, energy and biomedical technology.  You certainly do not have to be an expert in these fields, but be aware of what is happening in the world.  See how these areas will effect your future career plans. 
3. Do not put all of your eggs in one basket.  If you anticipate your job will be around for the next 200 years, still learn new skills.  The only guarantee we have in life is change.  Transitions are much easier when you have another means of making a living. 
4. Try to remain optimistic.  These are some very difficult times for many people.  Although we have a future direction, today can still be daunting.  Review your goals and plans to find employment or transfer to another career.  If you need to make adjustments, it is okay.  It is best to be flexible.  If you do not have a plan, review "Working on Monday" parts 1 through 5.  It is an excellent guide to help you plan and prepare for your career.  
5. You can compete in the future, even if you do not like or were never good in school.  The thought of going to any type of training is difficult for many people.  They feel as if they are unable to learn or hate training.  Adult education is very different from high school.  The instructors are generally very understanding.  They will work with you and help you achieve your goals.  If you have to take a college course or earn a degree, you can do it too!  Take advantage of tutoring services and have confidence in yourself.  All things are possible, even education!  

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Until next Monday...

Starbucks Coffee and a Zondervan Book Give-a-Way Number 2!

Hello Empowered Peace community!  I hope that you are allowing the experiences in this journey called life to mold you into the best you possible!  You are capable of extraordinary things.  Let the dark times be the rich soil of tomorrow's dreams!

As some of you already know, a another give-a-way is happening!  Two lucky winners will receive a copy of the book "The Land Between" by Jeff Manion and a $15 Starbucks giftcard!  Zondervan Publishing is sponsoring the books and I am supplying the coffee! I think we make a great team! 

To win this contest you only have to "Like" the Empowered Peace Facebook page.  Send your friends over too!  Who knows, they may share a cup of coffee with you! 

Stay tuned for "The Land Between" book review on Empowered Peace.  The contest ends 2/8/2011 at 11:59pm EST.  Good luck!

Humans are Gaining Empowered Peace Through Technology in Science

The advances in robotics and computer technology are Empowering people in amazing ways.  Ray Kurweil is actually creating robotic red blood cells!  These small computers will be injected into the human body to destroy disease.  Diabetes, heart disease, AIDS and other biological destroyers will be eliminated. The technology of these robotic blood cells is also predicted to enhance human intelligence.  This is just the beginning of what is actually happening and being researched for the future.

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Amazing predictions for the future have been suggested.  There is no doubt that technology in science will remove unimaginable limitations from the human condition.  Life will be longer, easier and possible more fulfilling.  However, the question for me becomes...are we ready?

Humanity still struggles with racism, sexism, abuse and other moral inequalities.  If we are not clear and functioning in these areas, technology has many horrible consequences. How is society being prepared on an emotional and spiritual level?  If Kurweil's predictions are correct, our capacity to love will no longer be a  distinguishable human quality.

It is imperative to prepare for these advances on more than just a technological level.  One of the ways to stabilize humanity in lieu of our future is learning to fully embrace our neighbors, foreign and domestic.

I think the future is amazing!  Technology in science is and will allow us to live brilliant lives!  However, I think it is critical to advance in the social sciences and spirituality along side of our material inventions.  Empowered Peace is participating in the fullness of life, not just one aspect. 
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Segragation Still Exists!- A Pennsylvania School Separates Black Children to Help?

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A Pennsylvania school is approaching their problems by separating their students.  The students are being taken away from the regular school population based on their race.  This system although well intentioned, raises many concerns.

The message being sent to students, the community and the world is black children need special help.  The problems the school district is trying to address are experienced throughout every demographic.  It would seem a separation would be based on need, not color.

Bringing together students based situational criteria would be an opportunity for students and the community to learn about each other.  Knowing different cultures have the same problems allows for understanding and creates harmony.  Not to mention years of civil rights battles fought for integrated and fair school systems. What are your thoughts?

Huh?  Pennsylvania High School Segregates Students by Race and Gender.
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The Corruption of Our Youth- The Destructive Influences that are Impacting Their Lives

Today was one of the most uncomfortable, awkward and disagreeable afternoons of my life.  My daughter came home with a baby and I am not happy!  She proudly sat her 'son' down and removed the blanket from his head.  Then she removed him from the baby carrier and rocked him in her arms.  By this time I was cringing!  Then she had the nerve to ask me "will you watch him while I take the dog out?"
"What?"
"No Way!"
"I am not helping you do anything!"  "It is your baby, you figure it out!"
She reluctantly put the baby back in the carrier, leashed the dog and took them both out!

My daughter's baby is not real.  It is a simulation doll given to her by the school.  They are supposed to get a real life experience of parenthood.  This baby had to be named by my daughter, she has to change its diaper, feed it, dress it, console the baby when it cries and take it everywhere she goes.

I have never seen my daughter more excited about a school project.  She is a high school senior and this seems to be the highlight of her year.  One of the main concerns I have about this project is the promotion of single parenthood.  If this is a real life experiment I think the kids should be working with a partner.  They should make decisions together and share the responsibility.  My daughter's teacher rejected the idea of doing the project with a 'spouse.'  What kind of lessons are they teaching?

To make matters worse one of my daughter's favorite programs is, you guessed it, "Teen Mom."  This reality show follows the life of teenage moms and their struggles as teen moms.  One of the moms got pregnant a second time and they recorded her abortion!  Our youth are being corrupted!


What about The Disney Channel and Nickelodeon!   This programming is geared towards children between the ages of maybe 3 and 17.  The stars of the show are the kids and they are just disrespectful!  They lie to their parents, yell at them and basically treat them like fools.  The worst part is the parents laugh at their treatment, leave the room and the kids continue with their bad behavior.  It is hard to find the humor.  Then you have the sexual tension between 12 year olds!  They fall in love, kiss and get their feelings hurt.  The boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is the central theme of most of the lives of the networks characters.  The lessons being taught here are corrupting our youth.

Last but not least, the entertainers!  Sex sells, but too the kids!  The sexual curiosity is aroused in our children at an early age.  They see Britney Spears, Christina Aguilera, Lindsey Lohan, Miley Cyrus and Jessica Simpson.  They started off as young, innocent and wholesome, but everyone knew what was coming.  It is as if the world waited for these girls to turn 18 and become media 'playmates.' Sexy outfits, bumpin' and grindin' is the norm and their fans are 11 years old.  Not to mention the trauma these stars themselves suffer. 


I know responsible parents try to protect their children, but the things the kids learn at school.  I think we have come full circle now.  I began this article with school and here it ends at school.

Our kids need us to be good role models.  They need us to guide the way because they are being hit with corrupt messages from every side.  Please understand, I do not completely knock "Teen Mom" or the baby simulation experiment.  I am asking for balance.

Much of the subject matter covered in reality shows like "Teen Mom" are simply the truth about American youth.  But is the content in today's fictional media producing the troubled teens that appear on reality shows?  How can we begin to impact the people who produce content for our  children?  What is the proper standard?  How are we creating an Empowered future for our youth?  These are some serious questions that need to be addressed and we as parents and citizens of the world have the power to make a difference!
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The Difficult Truths of Life

Chaplain Donna

Telling the truth is not always easy.  I have had to speak a difficult truth several times this week and I felt terrible after it was over.  It was a sinking feeling that filled me with doubt about my future and my ability to earn a living.  As many of you know, I have been sabotaged by an old supervisor and so-called friend.  There is a strong possibility they are still waiting for another opportunity to shit (forgive my language, but I can not think of a more appropriate word) on my hard work.  The fact of the matter is I have to deal with this unpleasant truth happening in my life or my life will continue to deal with me. 

Coming to terms with this has caused me to cry many tears and question my chances of any real success.  I do not know who is going to hire someone that has a bad reputation.  I do not know who is going to hire someone who has a stalker playing God in the background.  I do not know if their efforts to ruin my lively hood have been completely successful.  To say the least I am in a sad place, but the possibilities have never been more brighter. 

Still I Rise

by Maya Angelou

You may write me down in history   

With your bitter, twisted lies,

You may trod me in the very dirt   

But still, like dust, I'll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?

Why are you beset with gloom?   

’Cause I walk like I've got oil wells   

Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,   

With the certainty of tides,   

Just like hopes springing high,   

Still I'll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?   

Bowed head and lowered eyes?   

Shoulders falling down like teardrops,   

Weakened by my soulful cries?

Does my haughtiness offend you?   

Don't you take it awful hard

’Cause I laugh like I've got gold mines   

Diggin’ in my own backyard.

You may shoot me with your words,   

You may cut me with your eyes,

You may kill me with your hatefulness,

But still, like air, I’ll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?

Does it come as a surprise

That I dance like I've got diamonds   

At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of the huts of history’s shame

I rise

Up from a past that’s rooted in pain

I rise

I'm a black ocean, leaping and wide,   

Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.

Leaving behind nights of terror and fear

I rise

Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear

I rise

Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,   

I am the dream and the hope of the slave.   

I rise

   I rise   

 I rise.

Remove The Shame of Abuse and Watch Yourself Become a Winner!

Abuse is insidious because it takes away a person's wholeness.  If you have ever known a person before and then after any type of abuse or violent act, you have witnessed this change.  If you yourself have been abused you have experienced this change.  The brokenness of abuse shatters a person's soul and the pieces are held together by shame.

Shame prevents a person from being a winner.  Relationships tend to be stressed because of an invisible darkness that looms inside.  This darkness is like a dirtiness that soils one's self perception.  It becomes a continual struggle to hide this perceived dirtiness from anything a person identifies as good.  Unfortunately a person filled with shame can believe everything and everyone is better than them.   

Shamed people are likely to attract predators because of their feelings of unworthiness.  Their self-talk consistently says they are not good enough.  Some see this as a humble disposition, but it is a deception.  God's creations are entitled to goodness in all things.  This includes relationships, jobs, friends and material possessions.  There is nothing wrong with experiencing the fullness of life.  Being abused does not revoke the right to enjoy the finer things in life.  Being abused means something bad happened to you, but you are not a bad person. 

It should not be a shameful experience to drive the car you love, to have a partner that respects and loves you or to have the job of your dreams.  Shame tells you to humble yourself and give it to someone more deserving.  I am here to tell you.  There is not anyone who deserves it more than you!  Living a good, happy and fulfilling life is everyone's right...even yours, even mine. 

It is important to reverse the devastating limitations of shame.  The grips of it are powerful, but with God, time, patience and help you can become your winning self.  Try some of these tips to break the chains of shame.

1. Identify an Empowered role model.  I was recently watching the biography of Arnold Schwarzenegger.  He was a man that came from poor beginnings, yet made no apologies for his success in life.  He did not let his past limit his future.  Watch your role model's interviews, read their books and create your own success.  
2. Surround yourself with positive things.  Watch constructive television, read inspiring books and listen to uplifting music.  It creates a sense of calm and nurtures a can do attitude.
3. Take inventory of your relationships.  Remove people that tear you down!  If you are unable to fix stressed relationships, stop participating in them.  Monitor your relationship with self.  Treat yourself good.  I heard a quote that I can not place, it said "treat yourself the way you want others to treat you."  Get to know yourself, accept yourself and learn to love you. 
4. Develop a relationship with God.  God is the creator of all things including you.  Who knows you better than the one that made you.  Learn what God thinks about you and make that your truth.  God is able to support and help you through tough times and transitions.  It is His transforming power that renews the soul.  Stay close to Him and allow God to gently love your pain away.  
5. Take care of yourself.  Treat yourself to a special meal.  Get a massage, manicure or facial.  Get a nice outfit.  Watch a comedy and laugh!  

Remember life is a process and every moment you try, you become better.  It is easy to become frustrated because healing from abuse can take a long time.  Be patient with yourself and know everything is alright and you are a winner!
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Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life- The Benefits of Positive Thinking

It is important to practice positive thinking.  I use the word practice because thinking positively takes active participation.   Allowing yourself to dwell on negative situations, outcomes and fears shapes you as a person.  How do you feel after you have been exposed to something that makes you happy?  You are usually happy, right?  Not if you continually focus on negativity.  It is difficult to embrace anything that is good.  You may smile, or even outwardly laugh, but inside you are an anxious, nervous mess waiting for something horrible to ruin your good thing.

Allowing yourself to think in a positive manner will change your perspective.  Continued practice can even re-frame your disposition.  I know that this is easier said than done, creating new habits is not as easy as eating cookies.  You may even need professional assistance to dissolve past trauma, but the results of a good attitude can Empower your life.  Here are some of the benefits.

1. You get to move past your circumstances.  You can either become a victim of your bad situation or use your situation to make you sharper.  Just as a body builder needs resistance to develop muscles... using the tool of positive thinking develops your ability to transcend adversity.
2. Your choices will build you up.  If you live in a negative, dark existence you will tend to act in that direction.  These actions will steal your motivation and destroy your hope.  However, if you think positive, you will build bridges that help you reach your goals. 
3. You become physically healthier.  Doctors continually remind their patients about stress.  It contributes to heart disease, hypertension and depression.  Simply changing your thoughts will increase your physical fitness (Mayo Clinic). 

I know that life can be tough.  I also know that being positive in some circumstance even seems impossible.  Yet, the best way to take control of your life is taking control of your thoughts.  Look fear in the face and claim your Peace! 
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"Working on Monday" - A Bit of Advice and Thoughtful Reflections

I have now been unemployed for just over 3 months.  In these 3 months my mother became ill and recently died.  My family has been unsettled by this foundational loss.  Now that things in my family are beginning to settle, my feelings about the loss of my mother and job have had an opportunity to surface.

The most prominent feeling that continues to reveal itself is sadness.  I loved my job and it gave me a sense of destiny fulfillment.  My job was truly a blessing from God and I broke ground in many ways.  I am also saddened by some of the mistakes made as well.  The biggest mistake...allowing a company to manage, implement and oversee my ideas.

The other mistake was ignorance.  I was unaware of many things that caused me harm.  I was unaware of bitter vengeance and employment laws that applied to my life and situation.  I think it is important for any worker to know the law.  Employers know the law and use it in many ethical and unethical ways.  If you know the law and how to use it, your chances of being illegally terminated will be diminished.  If you know you are being stalked by past vindictive employers let people know.  Stalkers hide in the dark, bring their activities to light.  Here is a good place to start.

View Your Employee File

Make sure you know what is in your employee file.  Employers can put false, incorrect or harmful information in your file.  Your file follows you around within a company and negative information can stop you from getting promotions and transferring. It is also used to terminate employment.  

I would also suggest you keep your own employee file.  Make sure your record matches what your employer has on record.  If things are not in order, know your chain of command to take proper action.  You may even have to obtain a lawyer.  It is your right to see your employee file, if you are denied access to it, you have the right to take action. 

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Restoration- The Promise of a New Day!

Restoration is the feeling of sunshine after a long cold rain.  It is vindication after a harsh, wrongful punishment.  It is like running into the arms of a loved one after years of silent separation.  It is like water touching the dry dirt of parched flowers.  It is like the smell of a baby after a bath and the first kiss of true love.

I am thankful for many things in my life, but I am in need of some restoration.  God has blessed me in many ways.  He has done things for me I am sure I do not deserve.  But one thing I need is restoration.  I need to experience the decay of vindictive rumors and the rise of truth.  I need to experience the rewards of my hard work pulled from under my feet.  I need to know that God is near me and has not left me ashamed.

I believe in God with all of me, but sometimes prolonged circumstances tear into my Peace of mind.  It is during these times of trying that my soul longs for the cool refreshing of God's restoration.  It is during these times that the Psalms of David comfort me.  I look forward to God's restoration.

In the meantime I will embrace the process of my growth.  I will stretch the elasticity of my faith and move forward with hope and determination.  The dry days are only for a season.  I look forward to sweet restoration!
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Upcoming Changes for Empowered Peace!

I am working on some changes for the Empowered Peace website.  These changes will hopefully promote a more cohesive community for the members and visitors of Empowered Peace.  I anticipate an implementation by the end of next week.
 
If you have any suggestions please feel free to share your ideas!

Thank you for supporting Empowered Peace!

In the mean time, enjoy this classic by Diana Ross.  If you can not view this video, please follow this link to the website.

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Changing a Bad Situation by Changing Yourself

Bad situations in life usually begin with a relationship.  Conflict with a co-worker, a bad marriage, disrespectful children or even money problems involve you and/or at least one other person.  Changing a bad situation is not always simple.  It involves confronting deep inner fears and taking action. 

Most people are familiar with the concept of self-change for better results.  But, is that really what is happening?  Deciding to change does not mean other people to follow your lead.  Making an effort to be nice to co-worker, does not require the other person's participation.  Changing yourself means just that, change without any expectation or participation from others.  There is nothing wrong with hoping things get better, but the other person or people may not have the same desires. 

Focusing on self-change means creating boundaries, making construction decisions and taking a NEW direction.  Let's really be Empowered by expecting the best out of ourselves without any expectations from others.  

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Finding Balance as a Single Parent

Being a single parent is a very unique challenge.  The responsibility of creating a home where the emotional, financial, social, physical and spiritual needs of a family are fulfilled is difficult.  These needs have to be maintained on a daily basis for the well-being of your children and self.  Finding balance a as single mom or dad is an essential survival tool. 

"Put on your gas mask first!"  These are standard instructions given on every airline flight.  If you are unable to remain conscious, how can you help your neighbor?  The same rules apply in single parenting.  Living a balanced life allows a single parent to succeed in all areas of life without burning out.

I have been a single parent since my daughter was a baby.  When I was married my focus was on raising my daughter and keeping a good household.  My direction changed as a single person.  I began to think about my career more, I spent a lot of time and energy dating and I was constantly concerned with paying bills.  My daughter was no longer my only priority.  I set everything as a priority and eventually I was falling short on everything.  Especially in giving my daughter the attention she needed.

As I reflect the best time I had as a single parent was simply working and taking care of my daughter. I had a semester off of school and I decided to stop dating. I became a full-time mom.  I cooked, did homework with my daughter, kept the house clean, spent time with friends and even smiled.  I was not even stressed.  My life was balanced because it was not filled with competing projects.  I could enjoy the joys of life without feeling guilty for neglecting my daughter.  My daughter was happier as well.  As I eased into the next semester of school after taking one off, I felt refreshed.  It was not long that I began to feel the same pressures of being pulled in too many directions.  My life was out of balance.

Since that time I have continued to raise my daughter, go to school and work.  I continued with my decision to stop dating, but I was still spread too thin.  I have learned it would have been better to focus on the most important things in my life. I should have picked school or work, the two of them together was too much.  Recognizing and honoring my limitations would have allowed my family to experience more joy and overall well-being. 

I know there are a lot of single parents trying to live balanced lives.  Here are some suggestions.

1. Slow down.  You may have a lot of goals.  Trying to accomplish them all at once or within a short span of time is unhealthy.  Life passes you by and time with your children is lost.  Creating longer timeliness and having patience is a sure winner. 
2. To date or not to date, that is the question.  Dating in today's world is scary.  You hear of children being molested by the significant other of a parent.  You hear countless stories of domestic violence and stalking.  Finding a good partner is not easy.  Decide if you really want to put your energy into something that will be there when the children are adults.  If you do date, try to come up with a plan that takes minimal time away from your family.
3. Take time out for yourself.  Exercise, take a cooking class, join a bowling league whatever gives you the ability to get away and relieve stress.  Your soul needs time for itself.  You are still an individual.
4. Prioritize your life.  If you are run down and stressed out you may have to give something up.  It is easy to be greedy and go for everything that your heart desires.  Just like eating too much candy you get sick.  I have found that raising your children and pursuing one big goal is more than enough.  If you are a smart planner you may be able to kill two birds with one stone.
5. Children grow up.  You will have an empty nest soon enough.  Then you can do almost anything you want.  Just plan and save.  

Parenting is a sacrifice.  You give up some of the things that you want to care for your offspring.  Accept and embrace the fullness of single-parenthood.  The sooner you realize the reality of being a single parent, the sooner you can live the fullest balanced life available!  
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"Working on Monday" Recognizing Dr. Martin Luther KIng, Jr.

"Working on Monday" is taking the day off to recognize Dr. Martin Luther King's birthday.  

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Dr. Martin Luther King- I Have a Dream, Part 2

Dr. Martin Luther King's birthday has different meanings for different people.  For some it is just a day off from work.  Other people in the nation are touched in a more profound way.  Their conscious begins to reflect on that savage part of America's history, that is sometimes easier to forget.  They think on acts of racism that still cause pain and wonder if racism will ever end. 

African-Americans and Caucasian Americans share a mysterious connection.  They have an understanding between them that is unspoken.  Eyes and gestures demonstrate the pecking order that is to take place.  This order is not based on strength, but color.  Black and white people forget about the other minorities for a moment and quietly run through years of history with the blink of an eye.
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Dr. Martin Luther King- I Have a Dream, Part 1

Martin Luther King's Address at March on Washington
August 28, 1963. Washington, D.C.

This speech was taken in its entirety from http://www.mlkonline.net/dream.html (photos are also from this site)

This is one of Dr. King's most famous speeches.  I have posted here in recognition of his birthday January 15, 1929.  His birthday is officially recognized the 3rd Monday in January.  Which will be January 17 in this year 2011.  Reflect upon his words of Empowerment!  Blessings, Chaplain Donna.

I am happy to join with you today in what will go down in history as the greatest demonstration for freedom in the history of our nation. [Applause]

Five score years ago, a great American, in whose symbolic shadow we stand signed the Emancipation Proclamation. This momentous decree came as a great beacon light of hope to millions of Negro slaves who had been seared in the flames of withering injustice. It came as a joyous daybreak to end the long night of captivity.

But one hundred years later, we must face the tragic fact that the Negro is still not free. One hundred years later, the life of the Negro is still sadly crippled by the manacles of segregation and the chains of discrimination. One hundred years later, the Negro lives on a lonely island of poverty in the midst of a vast ocean of material prosperity. One hundred years later, the Negro is still languishing in the corners of American society and finds himself an exile in his own land. So we have come here today to dramatize an appalling condition.

In a sense we have come to our nation's capital to cash a check. When the architects of our republic wrote the magnificent words of the Constitution and the declaration of Independence, they were signing a promissory note to which every American was to fall heir. This note was a promise that all men would be guaranteed the inalienable rights of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.

It is obvious today that America has defaulted on this promissory note insofar as her citizens of color are concerned. Instead of honoring this sacred obligation, America has given the Negro people a bad check which has come back marked "insufficient funds." But we refuse to believe that the bank of justice is bankrupt. We refuse to believe that there are insufficient funds in the great vaults of opportunity of this nation. So we have come to cash this check -- a check that will give us upon demand the riches of freedom and the security of justice. We have also come to this hallowed spot to remind America of the fierce urgency of now. This is no time to engage in the luxury of cooling off or to take the tranquilizing drug of gradualism. Now is the time to rise from the dark and desolate valley of segregation to the sunlit path of racial justice. Now is the time to open the doors of opportunity to all of God's children. Now is the time to lift our nation from the quicksands of racial injustice to the solid rock of brotherhood.

It would be fatal for the nation to overlook the urgency of the moment and to underestimate the determination of the Negro. This sweltering summer of the Negro's legitimate discontent will not pass until there is an invigorating autumn of freedom and equality. Nineteen sixty-three is not an end, but a beginning. Those who hope that the Negro needed to blow off steam and will now be content will have a rude awakening if the nation returns to business as usual. There will be neither rest nor tranquility in America until the Negro is granted his citizenship rights. The whirlwinds of revolt will continue to shake the foundations of our nation until the bright day of justice emerges.

But there is something that I must say to my people who stand on the warm threshold which leads into the palace of justice. In the process of gaining our rightful place we must not be guilty of wrongful deeds. Let us not seek to satisfy our thirst for freedom by drinking from the cup of bitterness and hatred.

We must forever conduct our struggle on the high plane of dignity and discipline. We must not allow our creative protest to degenerate into physical violence. Again and again we must rise to the majestic heights of meeting physical force with soul force. The marvelous new militancy which has engulfed the Negro community must not lead us to distrust of all white people, for many of our white brothers, as evidenced by their presence here today, have come to realize that their destiny is tied up with our destiny and their freedom is inextricably bound to our freedom. We cannot walk alone.

And as we walk, we must make the pledge that we shall march ahead. We cannot turn back. There are those who are asking the devotees of civil rights, "When will you be satisfied?" We can never be satisfied as long as our bodies, heavy with the fatigue of travel, cannot gain lodging in the motels of the highways and the hotels of the cities. We cannot be satisfied as long as the Negro's basic mobility is from a smaller ghetto to a larger one. We can never be satisfied as long as a Negro in Mississippi cannot vote and a Negro in New York believes he has nothing for which to vote. No, no, we are not satisfied, and we will not be satisfied until justice rolls down like waters and righteousness like a mighty stream.

Go back to Mississippi, go back to Alabama, go back to Georgia, go back to Louisiana, go back to the slums and ghettos of our northern cities, knowing that somehow this situation can and will be changed. Let us not wallow in the valley of despair.

I say to you today, my friends, that in spite of the difficulties and frustrations of the moment, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in the American dream.

I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: "We hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men are created equal."

I have a dream that one day on the red hills of Georgia the sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners will be able to sit down together at a table of brotherhood.

I have a dream that one day even the state of Mississippi, a desert state, sweltering with the heat of injustice and oppression, will be transformed into an oasis of freedom and justice.

I have a dream that my four children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.

I have a dream today.

I have a dream that one day the state of Alabama, whose governor's lips are presently dripping with the words of interposition and nullification, will be transformed into a situation where little black boys and black girls will be able to join hands with little white boys and white girls and walk together as sisters and brothers.

I have a dream today.

I have a dream that one day every valley shall be exalted, every hill and mountain shall be made low, the rough places will be made plain, and the crooked places will be made straight, and the glory of the Lord shall be revealed, and all flesh shall see it together.

This is our hope. This is the faith with which I return to the South. With this faith we will be able to hew out of the mountain of despair a stone of hope. With this faith we will be able to transform the jangling discords of our nation into a beautiful symphony of brotherhood. With this faith we will be able to work together, to pray together, to struggle together, to go to jail together, to stand up for freedom together, knowing that we will be free one day.

This will be the day when all of God's children will be able to sing with a new meaning, "My country, 'tis of thee, sweet land of liberty, of thee I sing. Land where my fathers died, land of the pilgrim's pride, from every mountainside, let freedom ring."

And if America is to be a great nation this must become true. So let freedom ring from the prodigious hilltops of New Hampshire. Let freedom ring from the mighty mountains of New York. Let freedom ring from the heightening Alleghenies of Pennsylvania!

Let freedom ring from the snowcapped Rockies of Colorado!

Let freedom ring from the curvaceous peaks of California!

But not only that; let freedom ring from Stone Mountain of Georgia!

Let freedom ring from Lookout Mountain of Tennessee!

Let freedom ring from every hill and every molehill of Mississippi. From every mountainside, let freedom ring.

When we let freedom ring, when we let it ring from every village and every hamlet, from every state and every city, we will be able to speed up that day when all of God's children, black men and white men, Jews and Gentiles, Protestants and Catholics, will be able to join hands and sing in the words of the old Negro spiritual, "Free at last! free at last! thank God Almighty, we are free at last!"


This speech was taken in its entirety from http://www.mlkonline.net/dream.html

The Rebirth of a Powerful You!

Sometimes you can alienate yourself from the life that surrounds you.  The pain of past and possibly even current events subconsciously builds invisible walls of protection.  The isolation that befriends you begins to draw loneliness and fear as compatible companions.  The lack of good companionship begins the self talk of you are not good enough.  Before you know it, you are alone or with people that have given into bitterness.  Your relationships are not fulfilling and you can not seem to get out of your rut.

It is not impossible to break out of your shell.  You do not have to live a life with mediocre or turbulent relationships that hurt.  You have to first be ready for a change and reach out of your comfort zone of misery.  The victim has to die and the powerful you has to be reborn. 

These changes do not have to occur overnight.  Take it a little at a time.  Try standing up to a bully.  Try wearing the outfit you really like, but are afraid to be criticized.  Try asking your crush out on a date.  Try being happy and thinking positive about your future.  Your destiny is in your hands and no one has the power to steal it from you.  All you have to do is get back up when you fall! 

Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
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Reality Check: Your Teenager Could Be Suicidal- A Reader's Request

The subject of suicide is usually discussed after a tragic event.  The schools gather students, parents and counselor's together in an attempt to prevent lawsuits, follow protocol and to keep the loud opinionated parents quiet.  This sounds cynical, but where were these sessions of love when the victim needed help?  The schools and parents will say they were doing the best they could.  "We have a tight budget and can only provide limited services."  "We had to work and we did not know things were this bad."  "I knew he was upset, but I thought he would be okay."

As a parent, I have to admit, suicide is a subject that has rarely been covered.  I am a part of the majority and we think our children are perfect little angels.  We think our children never swear, use drugs, drink or have sex behind our backs.  It is this kind of thinking that puts our children in danger.  It is this kind of thinking that approves school budgets without proper support for our children.  It is this kind of thinking that makes it impossible to have honest conversations with ourselves, spouses, children, teachers and others.  We walk around with blinders on as our children are crumbling right in front of our eyes.

Center for Disease Control, Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance System (2009)

13.8% of high school students have seriously considered attempting suicide
26.1% of high school students felt sad or hopeless.
10.9% of high school students made a plan of how they were going to attempt suicide
6.3% of high school students actually attempted suicide 

These statistics tell me parents and schools should be more proactive.  Teenagers that do drugs and struggle with depression seem to be the likely suspects.  However the research shows more and more lesbian and gay teenagers are turning to suicide. 

What is the Problem?

Grades have become a greater concern than the emotional well-being or character building of our children.  Parents compete and brag about the accomplishments of their children.  Some parents are even compelled to lie and find it embarrassing when they perceive their children as inadequate.  Schools are trying to maintain numbers and are focused on maintaining educational standards.  But what about the children all this is being done for?  Is the business of trying to elevate them alienating them?  The spiritual and psycho-social development of our youth is being neglected.

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Solutions

1. Family.  Families are broken.  Single parents, teen parents, grand parents raising their grandchildren do not have SUPPORT!  The foundation of a family is two parents working together.  Most families rely on two incomes, but if you have children try to sacrifice.  One parent stay at home and create a home.  If you are single you can still designate a family day.  Eat dinner together without the television.  It may seem awkward at first but your children will feel more loved.  They will feel they are apart of something that matters.  
2. Talk to schools and government.  Let them know about your concerns and ask them what they are doing about the problem.  Write letters to your senators and mayors about teen suicide.  Create programs in school.  For example, instead of having homeroom, have Homeroom.  A class period that students have a safe place to discuss their problems on a daily basis.  
3. Parents work out your emotional disconnections.  You can have family time, but without a real space for emotional growth, it will not work.  Parents look at yourselves and deal with your past hurts, insecurities and fears.  As you heal, you can better handle the needs of your children.
4. God.  Invite God into your family.  There are some things man can not fix. 

Signs a Teenager could be Suicidal

• They talk about suicide.  Even if it seems to be a joke.
• They are having problems in school with bullies.
• A change in personality. 
• They are using drugs and/or alcohol.
• They give away their important belongings. 
• They write or journal about death. 
• Appearing depressed or sad most of the time. 

National Suicide Prevention Help Line
1-800-suicide
1-800-784-2433

Resources for Suicide Prevention and Information

suicide.org

MedicineNet.org: Teens, Parents Underestimate Teen Suicide Risk

KidsHealth- from the health experts of Nemours

American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry: Teen Suicide 

American Academy of Pediatrics: Preventing Teen Suicide

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The Ugly People You Meet Attending Church!

The people you meet attending church are not all nice.  As a new believer nothing was better than attending church.  Worshiping God with fellow believers was amazing.  I was apart of some really great ministries and I was filled with hope each Sunday.  I loved being in church.  I went at least twice a week and two times on Sunday!  I was filled with enthusiasm, curiosity and passion for my church and church family.  Then I met the 'ugly' people.

The people who smile in your face and then stab you in the back!  These ugly people really go to church!  I met the people that gossip and spread rumors.  I could not believe Christians could be that terrible.  I met the Christians that have sex with everyone they can and go to church and pretend they are spending their nights in prayer.  I met the hypocrites that destroy peoples lives all week and sing in the choir on Sunday. 

A transition in leadership and a connection to a mentally ill individual changed everything.  A church that was once filled with caring and community turned greedy.  Money and power became more desirable than love and support.  It was justified with the word of God and harsh treatment to anyone that did not "fit in."  The ugly people took over and their crew stunk!

For months I denied how things had changed.  The pastor shouted from the pulpit "you came here for the word of God, forget about sister so and so."  "Stay at the church God has planted you, it doesn't matter if its hard."  I told myself this over and over as I ignored the harsh treatment from my Christian brothers and sisters.  I prayed, I cried, I broke down in service when the treatment became to much to bear.  I was tortured and I still do not know why.  My clothes were criticized, my make-up was scrutinized, my daughter was teased and security constantly eyed me.  What ever these people thought of me was never brought to my attention.  They had to think I was wicked to be treated with such disgust.  But to my frustration I was never confronted, at least I could have defended myself and clarified suspicions.  Nothing but cruelty.  Nothing but the cold shoulder.  Nothing but mean looks and superior glances. 

I finally got a chance to meet with my pastor after months of rejection.  I asked him if there was a problem and he denied anything.  I was too afraid, hurt and ashamed to discuss the treatment I felt coming from him and the church.  It was easier to take his word and try to move forward.  The treatment did not stop and I decided enough is enough.  I'd had enough abuse.

After 4 years of hell I left the church.  I prayed to God and asked why these people treated me with such cruelty.  I did not do anything to deserve the mess they dealt out to me.  Then one day I got up and went to a different church.  This was months later and I was gun shy.  It was exactly what the doctor ordered.  I was loved and accepted.  This church helped to heal the pains of spiritual abuse inflicted by my former pastor and church.  But as I healed and some incidents occurred I yearned for more!  What happened to the church?

As I reflect on these events I feel it is important to share my thoughts.  New Christians deserve to know everyone attending church is not nice.  There are some real ugly people that will treat you like crap.  All Christians need to know their behavior inside and out of church can rip and tear the souls of many.  Non-Christians need to know Christians are not perfect, but the ones acting like devils do not represent all.  Pastors need to know the devastation bad behavior creates.  Those of you that have been hurt in church, you are not alone. 

The Things I Have Learned

1. Stop Judging!  Being a Christian does not give you the right to look down on others.  Discriminating against people based on their clothes, finances, personal appearance and zip code is cruel.  Every person has a story take the time to listen and give the love of Christ.  Withholding love based on your estimation of who has earned it is arrogant and just plain wrong.  Giving charity does not mean you gave love!  Telling someone how to live their life certainly does not mean you helped them. 
2. If you are being treated like crap leave!  No one should be treated like trash.  Superior attitudes based on the acceptance of man is nonsense.  People change like the wind and trying to meet their standards is grueling.  Find out who you are and accept yourself!  You can not define yourself by anyone's standards, not even the pastor.  
3. Giving money is a personal choice.  Churches need money to survive.  The pastor spends a lot of time helping his flock and should be compensated.  But being manipulated into giving is wrong.  Giving large amounts of money does not mean God is going to bless you more.  Only give large amounts when prompted by God.  If you want to help pay for church expenses because the pastor asked, its okay.  It is not okay for the pastor to say you should be ashamed if you do not help.  There is a definite spiritual law to giving but allow God to reveal it to you in His time.  If the pastor is telling you that you are missing out on anything because you do not give $20 when he asks, there is something wrong.  Different views on tithing exist today.  Study the word of God and decide for yourself.
4. Everyone in church is not there to worship.  Many people go to church because it is fashionable.  They quote the scripture and say "have a blessed day," but their hearts are cruel.  They are hateful people and do terrible things, inside and outside of church.  Giving someone automatic trust because they attend your church is a mistake.  They should earn it like anyone else.  This includes the pastor, his wife and their children.  
5. Know yourself and stop trying to figure out everyone else.  Act from your truth and not one imposed on you by another man.  
6. Learn the meaning of the Bible yourself.  Everything coming from the pulpit is not truth.  Read your Bible and ask God to reveal His truth to you.  Do not depend on another person's understanding unless they have gained your trust.  If you are able to see the flaws in your husband or wife, why can you not see them in the pastor.  They are human and can err.  Make sure the teaching you are hearing is really what you believe.  God gave us a brain to think with, us it!
7. If someone is giving you damaging information about another person, ask!  Ask the person that was drug through the mud if the information is true.  If you do not have the nerve to get the truth, do not treat them poorly based on a lie.  You would not want this to happen to you.  Learn how to ask and involve all parties.  If the person giving the information says its a secret, I can almost guarantee they are liars! 
8. Enjoy the journey and always continue to grow.  You can not let ugly people ruin your good thing.  Find another location, ignore them if you can but do not allow ugly people to tear you away from God. 

As I think about the headlines, I guess the people I have met are not that incredible.  Jimmy Swaggart, Ted Haggard and Jim Bakker were powerful men of God.  They influenced millions of people and raised millions of dollars in the name of the Lord.  I can not speak for these men, but if they are truly remorseful, I think they would say: "Getting caught was the best thing that ever happened to me." 
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A Better Sex Life- Turn Up The Heat in Your Love Life

A great sex life is something most people desire.  To have a person who makes you shake with excitement when they are around is a gift from heaven.  Never being too tired to make love because you get a burst of energy when you are in each others presence is intoxicating.  This does not just happen in movies or to the perfect couple across the street.  It can happen in your relationship.  Sex can reach its ultimate climax within the safety of pure commitment. 

What are the ingredients of a real commitment?  I know you have heard the following words before, but probably not in the context of sex.  These are the elements that create a spectacular sex life: love, trust, intimacy, honesty, vulnerability and belief.  If you can use these words to describe your relationship, chances are you have a good sex life. 

It is unfortunate that in today's climate sex is glamorized in the midst of drinking, immoral behavior and multiple partners.  This type of lifestyle leaves a person empty at the end of day.  Usually searching for another drink to drown the loneliness and shame of the night before.  In my opinion this is not a good sex life.  It is a life filled with mechanical experiences that may satisfy the body, but not your soul.

A good sex life happens when one soul connects with another.  It happens when all of the fake facades are buried and the authentic self is accepted in the safety of love.  If you are single get rid of the games and stop dating anyone that is playing them.  If you are married it is time to go to the next level and find that secret place.

Here are Some Sex Quizzes

The Ultimate Sex Quiz 

Problems in Bed? A Sex Quiz for Women

Sex Issues Quiz- Orange County Counseling 

Are You Lousy In Bed? Quiz: Men's Health

Life, Love, Sex and Relationship Quizzes   

 

Discovering true intimacy can be scary.  Allowing yourself to be transparent with another person requires courage.  Take things slow.  Read books about intimacy and sex together.  Most importantly take this journey together.  If your partner is not willing to join you in this journey seriously consider if the timing is right. 

"Working on Monday" How to Have a Good Day at Work!

Having a good day at work requires preparation.  The feeling of inner confidence and calm puts the days events in a clear perspective.  The forgotten memo your supervisor questions you about is less likely to escalate into major a catastrophe.

It can be difficult to relax if you are stressed out, but it is the best time to center yourself.  It is much easier to recover from a bad day if you are acting and not reacting out of emotion.  Here are some simple ways to prepare for a good day.

1. Eat breakfast.  Eating a meal gives you energy.  You can think of your body like a car.  If it does not have fuel it does not move.  Humans are the same way.  When you are hungry you think slower, move slower and are likely distracted by your hunger.  Some people do not like to have big meals in the morning, smoothies are great!  But try to eat something that will keep you full until lunchtime.  
2. Get a good nights sleep.  It always feels better to start the day off fully rested.  The Mayo Clinic recommends 7 to 9 hours of sleep per night.  Your mind is more alert and you are less likely to forget important details.  
3. Wake up when your alarm goes off.  I have to admit I like to hit my snooze button at least twice.  I have found that when I get up I have more energy.  I also do not have to rush!  Try forgetting the snooze and just getting up. 
4. Find some quiet time.  This has the best result when it is done after work and before work.  Take some time to let go of the events at work and transition into home life.  Forgive people for their mistakes.  Forgive yourself for your shortcomings and praise yourself for accomplishments.  Exercise is an excellent way to work off stress and refocus your thoughts.  Repeating positive affirmations in the morning, prepares your mind for a good outcome.
5. Tidy up things at home.  When things are in order at home, you can fully focus at work.  Do things like balance your checkbook, make-up your bed when you awake, settle disagreements with friends and family members and make payments arrangements on unpaid bills.  The stress of home can easily carry over to work.  Keep things in order at home and your day is sure to improve.

Have a great work day!

Reference

How Many Hours of Sleep are Enough for Good Health? 

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