"Working on Monday"- Starting My Own Business

"Working on Monday" is coming out a couple of days late.  I have been working on a new project, which is starting my own business.  I have wanted to start my own business for a long time, but allowed circumstances to dictate my goals. 

I decided this is the perfect time to start my own business.  Monday I launched another website called Donna's Dollhouse.  Donna's Dollhouse is a website that focuses on makeup reviews, skin care, jewelry, accessories and other fun topics.  I wanted to create a place for women to shop online, have fun and get away from the stress of the day. 

This business certainly is not easy.  I started this endeavor with very little money.  Although the money that went into this was not a lot, it was everything to me.  I am taking a big risk to see my dreams come true.  It could take up to a year or more to see a return on my investment. 

I have an enormous amount of work in front of me, but I look forward to the challenge.  Take a look at my site and tell me what you think!  www.dollmeup2.com

Until next Monday...

"Working on Monday"- A Short Update

It is getting closer to the day of the official launch of my new business.  I am nervous, excited and full of anticipation.  The unfolding of my work will begin to meet with the needs of people around the world. 

As much as I have planned for this business, there are still many things not spelled out.  This is disappointing, but the work is just being done along the way.  I see such potential!  This business is another expression of my personal Empowerment.  This outlet of independence is filling my spiritual bank with big deposits. 

This post is going to be short, but my question to you:  Are you actively contributing to the future of your career? 

"Working on Monday"- Starting Your Own Business

Have you ever considered starting a business?  I have and I did!  Since I have begun my new venture, I have learned a lot about being an entrepreneur.  This is technically the second business I have started.  About five years ago I put together a customer service business.  The other commitments I had prevented the business from being more than a name on a business card.  Along with my other commitments, a lack of business experience also took a toll on the business. 

Needless to say, my past experience has greatly helped me with my new business.  I am definitely more prepared.  This time around I knew that preparing to start a business is crucial.  It allows you to present your business to perspective customers, acquire financing and understand the complexity of owning a business.

If you are planning on beginning a business here are some things you need to consider:

1. Time.  Are you willing to put all of your extra time into planning, launching and running a business.  I have been at my computer non-stop and still have countless tasks to finish. 
2. Education.  Are you willing to pour as many hours as necessary into learning about your area of expertise and the business that gives it life?  You may have a hobby and think making it into a business will be simple.  This is not always the case.  Most of time it is one of the biggest misconceptions new entrepreneurs discover.  A knowledge of accounting, laws, banking and licensing is important to success.  You are even further behind the eight ball when you go into a field without prior experience.  There are litterally hours upon hours of readings, speaking to experts and planning.  Honestly, this should be done before you even consider starting the business.  Are you willing to make these sacrifices?
3. Being misunderstood.  When you are serious about starting your own business people may initially be supportive.  They may share their concerns, but generally they will want to see if you can really make it happen.  As you move forward, if you are really serious, you will become consumed with your business.  It is like a new born baby that requires all of your attention.  You will begin to hear comments like, "we never see you anymore."  "Why are you doing all of this?"  "You need to come back to reality now."  "Can you make dinner or go shopping, we do not have anything to eat!"  Can you be committed to your business at the expense of challenging your support system?
4. Money.  Are you willing to invest in a venture that may fail?  Most businesses fail within the first two or three years.  My own theory on this, people get tired!  Money is used to update equipment, take educational classes, buy inventory, advertise, pay employees, pay for insurance, lease office space, take out perspective clients and maintain a website.  This is a short list!  You are going to have to financially support your business, before it supports you.  Are you willing to put your money into your business?

I hope I have made you think.  Getting into business for yourself can be extremely rewarding, but it comes with a price.  Make sure you can go the distance before you begin the venture.

Until next Monday...
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"Working on Monday"- Searching for a Job and Starting My Own Business

Well it has been just over 5 months since I have been unemployed.  I have put in applications and have interviewed with several employers.  I have not been hired yet and it is disappointing at times.  Last week after receiving this e-mail stating:

Dear Donna,

Thank you for your interest in Volunteer Bereavement Manager  with (company name deleted) Hospice Care. We have reviewed your resume and have carefully considered your qualifications. While your skills are certainly impressive, we have decided to pursue other candidates for the position.

We will maintain your profile and should a position open that matches your qualifications, we will contact you.  We also encourage you to periodically re-visit our website, (link removed) as new positions open daily.

Again, thank you for your interest in employment with us.

Regards,

Human Resources

(company name removed) Hospice Care

A friend referred me to this job and I was hopeful, but it did not work out.  I am of the mindset I do not want to be where I am not wanted.  It requires too much energy to maintain a position that is not lined up with my destiny. 

Even though I believe the above statement is true, it was upsetting not to be considered for the position.  I was supposed to have lunch that afternoon with a fellow chaplain and canceled.  I felt less than my best and emotionally unable to be good company.  I felt a greater drive to create my future and work on creating an income for my family.

My Other Project

I have been working on my own business.  This has been birthed out of the plan I created at the beginning of the "Working on Monday" series.  I am excited about this venture and I look forward to sharing more with you in the near future.  I have wanted to be an entrepreneur for a long time, I believe it fits my personality well! 

I am attempting to use my time to its fullest potential and this has been the fruit of my labor.  I will continue to search for employment and nurture my baby business.  

How have you been nurturing your career?
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"Working on Monday"- Off Day

Hi everyone!  Today has been a very good day!  I took the day off, but I will have another "Working on Monday" coming next week. 

Until next Monday...

"Working on Monday"- What is Workplace Integrity?

One of the most important qualities a person can embody is integrity.  But what is integrity in the business world?  Through my years of employment I have seen this happen over and over again.  The lying, cheat get promoted, raises and unfortunately get other people fired.  They walk through the workplace with a chip on their shoulder and take every opportunity to suck up to administrators.  Everyone seems to be afraid of this person or office click and turn blind eyes to their behavior.  Respect is given to them and the guys acting with real integrity are getting the shaft.  What is going on?

The other scenario is a wicked boss.  They write people up based on nonsense.  They throw their authority around like cheep cologne and would be better off supervising parked cars! 

People are driven to take medications, turn into liars to keep their jobs and walk around on egg shells because they do not know what is coming next.  This is not what the workplace is supposed to be about.  Work is about getting quality goods and services to customers and keeping them satisfied.  Since when does customer satisfaction equal backstabbing your co-worker?  Why are we surprised when we hear stories like Enron?  What will it take to stop the corporate beasts?

These are complex questions.  It is very difficult to do the right thing in a corrupt environment.  One place you can start is here:

1. Stop taking the B.S.  Let people understand you know how they operate.  Why play games and add life to their lie and death to your happiness.  
2. Report bad behavior.  It is tough to report bad behavior in a corrupt environment.  People form clicks and cover each other.  Find outside reporting agencies.  Do not make ultimatums or give warnings.  Just do it!
3. Find positive people and situations.  Being surrounded by corruption is emotionally, spiritually and physically draining.  Find positive people and situations to counter the nonsense.

 To be continued next Monday...
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"Working on Monday"- What if I Win?

This unemployment experience has been like none other.  I am working my plan and seeing results.  I must admit the way my goals are materializing is not how I visualized them.   I knew what I wanted but the form is different.  My direction has opened up new doors and opportunities I never thought of pursuing.  But, what if I win?


It is imperative that you prepare yourself to win.  Wanting a promotion, desiring a new business or bidding for a raise require you to take action.  This is the beginning of your dreams coming true and an excellent start.  Your heart is filled with hope and a new energy surrounds your presence.  The excitement of the chase is one mindset, but maintaining a dream is another.

When You are Not Prepared!

A Showtime documentry titled Reversal of Fortune, tracked a homeless man.  He found $100,000 while searching for bottles.  This money was planted by the documentary producers.  The homeless man agreed to have his experience filmed after finding the money.  They offered him a financial consultant, free of charge, but he refused.  Ted Rodrigue, the homeless man, blew all of his money.  

He was not prepared to manage $100,000.00.  He even turned down the resources that would significantly increase his chances of success.  Rodrigue had a mindset that prevented him from living a different lifestyle.  The point...

If you do not prepare yourself to win, you will lose.  You will behave and think at a level that is opposed to your new position.  For example, A pregnant woman carries her baby for 9 months.  She eats right, exercises, makes sure she get proper rest, goes to the doctor and takes her vitamins.  As she gets closer to the delivery date shopping for the baby is a smart idea.  The baby will need diapers, clothes, formula and other items to survive.  Let's say this mother is only concerned about her pregnancy phase and does not prepare for the baby being born.

When the baby comes home this mother is lost.  She does not have anything to keep the baby clean and the baby sits in soiled undergarments or nothing at all.  The baby is constantly crying because he is hungry, but the mom has no formula.  She does not breast feed because she does not know how and she is lost.  If this continues the baby will be taken away from her or not survive.  This is how your dreams are...If you do not prepare a place for them, they are taken away or die.

The Next Level

What does the next level of your career look like?  Did you create a space for it to thrive and survive?  If you are unable to answer this question you will lose.  Here are some ways to prepare for your career goals?

1. Learn how people living your dream think and live.  Success will require an adjustment in your life style.  Begin to prepare your family for this and begin to act as if you are already there.  Get comfortable in your skin and welcome change.  I hear people say they will never change and try to be the same, even when they hate it.  They are usually trying to get the approval of the people around them.  When you really think about it, is it fair to you or them?
2. Stop apologizing for wanting more out of life.  This attitude comes across in everything.  You have every right to pursue your dreams.  If other people are offended by your ambition, it is their problem.  Take them off of your list and keep going.  Keeping people like this around is dead weight. 
3. Keep up the good work.  If you have not heard this today, you are doing a great job.  When you are trying to make the most out of your life, compliments do not always come with the journey.  It takes courage to reach your full potential.  
4. Always act with integrity.  When you make decisions and take action use integrity.  If you have to lie, sleep and manipulate your way to the top, the price tag is too high.  This will steal the essence of your soul and turn you into someone you do not want to be.  You may even say "I will only do this until I make it" this is not true.  There will always be another level of achievement.  Nothing is worth killing your soul and the souls of others around you.  

Now that you are preparing to win.  You should have everything you need when you arrive!
Until next Monday...
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"Working on Monday"- Renew Your Energy with a Day Off!

Working requires a lot of energy.  Not just physical energy, but mental and spiritual.  It is important to rest and renew your strength.  I encourage you to take a day or two just for you! 

1. Watch a movie
2. Sleep
3. Meditate
4. Take a long bath
5. Soak your feet
6. Do absolutely NOTHING!
7. Take a drive
8. Check into a hotel with just yourself and pray
9. Listen to your favorite music
10. Clean the house
11. Dance!
12. Take a long walk
13. Eat your favorite comfort foods
14. Watch your favorite sitcom re-runs
15. Watch your favorite comedian

This is a short list of many things you can do to unwind.  The point is to take a moment to just breath!  The best activities are those that cleanse your mind and fill your spirit.  Being occupied with more busy work is certainly a day off, but real time off is renewing. 

If you are unable to take time-off do not become upset.  This will only add to your stress.  Find creative ways to take small amounts of time and regroup.  There is more than one way to accomplish a goal.  Keep the faith and know you have not lost, each time you take control you gain!

I am leaving you with some wonderful resources from the Mayo Clinic.  One of them is a stress test, pay attention to what it says and take action! 

Stress Assessment
Resiliency: Who goes the distance
How to be happy: Tips for cultivating contentment

Until next Monday!
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"Working on Monday"- Are You Training for The Future?

I was asked to do an interview with a local news station.  WDIV News 4 selected me to discuss the President's State of the Union Address and my reactions as an unemployed American.  I was humbled, nervous and excited.  I had to arrive at the at 5:45am, know the presidents speech and look good!  I have a new respect for early morning news casters. 

President Obama's speech was inspiring.  As a blogger, I look to the internet for the continued success of my blog.  The President's message to me... I am going in the right direction.  His continued emphasis on information technology seem solid.  President Obama also made it clear that research, education and energy would be significant strategies to ensure employment.  The world is changing.  The work place is becoming virtual and manufacturing plants are producing different types of products.

I am a 40 year old woman with many work years ahead of me.  Not only is the workplace changing but the entire infrastructure is being re-molded.  Are you training for the future?  If you are lucky enough to be working in an auto factory, are you looking at different products to assemble, make and produce?  If you are a gas station owner are you educating yourself on alternative forms of fuel?  If you are a secretary, are you learning how to become a virtual assistant online?  If you do not prepare yourself for the forward movement of the world, where will you be tomorrow?

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Changing careers or navigating a new direction can be very difficult.  The challenges are even greater if you are comfortable and are forced to move.  If you are a working adult of any age know your options and train for the future.  Here are some suggestions to get you started.

1. Research your current field of employment or interest.  See where it is going and if it has the ability to manifest in the future.  Find out how the job may change and prepare a plan to get the needed training.  If there is not a lot of information available you may have to predict the outcome based on jobs that directly effect your own.
2. Read up on information technology, energy and biomedical technology.  You certainly do not have to be an expert in these fields, but be aware of what is happening in the world.  See how these areas will effect your future career plans. 
3. Do not put all of your eggs in one basket.  If you anticipate your job will be around for the next 200 years, still learn new skills.  The only guarantee we have in life is change.  Transitions are much easier when you have another means of making a living. 
4. Try to remain optimistic.  These are some very difficult times for many people.  Although we have a future direction, today can still be daunting.  Review your goals and plans to find employment or transfer to another career.  If you need to make adjustments, it is okay.  It is best to be flexible.  If you do not have a plan, review "Working on Monday" parts 1 through 5.  It is an excellent guide to help you plan and prepare for your career.  
5. You can compete in the future, even if you do not like or were never good in school.  The thought of going to any type of training is difficult for many people.  They feel as if they are unable to learn or hate training.  Adult education is very different from high school.  The instructors are generally very understanding.  They will work with you and help you achieve your goals.  If you have to take a college course or earn a degree, you can do it too!  Take advantage of tutoring services and have confidence in yourself.  All things are possible, even education!  

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Until next Monday...

"Working on Monday" - A Bit of Advice and Thoughtful Reflections

I have now been unemployed for just over 3 months.  In these 3 months my mother became ill and recently died.  My family has been unsettled by this foundational loss.  Now that things in my family are beginning to settle, my feelings about the loss of my mother and job have had an opportunity to surface.

The most prominent feeling that continues to reveal itself is sadness.  I loved my job and it gave me a sense of destiny fulfillment.  My job was truly a blessing from God and I broke ground in many ways.  I am also saddened by some of the mistakes made as well.  The biggest mistake...allowing a company to manage, implement and oversee my ideas.

The other mistake was ignorance.  I was unaware of many things that caused me harm.  I was unaware of bitter vengeance and employment laws that applied to my life and situation.  I think it is important for any worker to know the law.  Employers know the law and use it in many ethical and unethical ways.  If you know the law and how to use it, your chances of being illegally terminated will be diminished.  If you know you are being stalked by past vindictive employers let people know.  Stalkers hide in the dark, bring their activities to light.  Here is a good place to start.

View Your Employee File

Make sure you know what is in your employee file.  Employers can put false, incorrect or harmful information in your file.  Your file follows you around within a company and negative information can stop you from getting promotions and transferring. It is also used to terminate employment.  

I would also suggest you keep your own employee file.  Make sure your record matches what your employer has on record.  If things are not in order, know your chain of command to take proper action.  You may even have to obtain a lawyer.  It is your right to see your employee file, if you are denied access to it, you have the right to take action. 

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"Working on Monday" Recognizing Dr. Martin Luther KIng, Jr.

"Working on Monday" is taking the day off to recognize Dr. Martin Luther King's birthday.  

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"Working on Monday" How to Have a Good Day at Work!

Having a good day at work requires preparation.  The feeling of inner confidence and calm puts the days events in a clear perspective.  The forgotten memo your supervisor questions you about is less likely to escalate into major a catastrophe.

It can be difficult to relax if you are stressed out, but it is the best time to center yourself.  It is much easier to recover from a bad day if you are acting and not reacting out of emotion.  Here are some simple ways to prepare for a good day.

1. Eat breakfast.  Eating a meal gives you energy.  You can think of your body like a car.  If it does not have fuel it does not move.  Humans are the same way.  When you are hungry you think slower, move slower and are likely distracted by your hunger.  Some people do not like to have big meals in the morning, smoothies are great!  But try to eat something that will keep you full until lunchtime.  
2. Get a good nights sleep.  It always feels better to start the day off fully rested.  The Mayo Clinic recommends 7 to 9 hours of sleep per night.  Your mind is more alert and you are less likely to forget important details.  
3. Wake up when your alarm goes off.  I have to admit I like to hit my snooze button at least twice.  I have found that when I get up I have more energy.  I also do not have to rush!  Try forgetting the snooze and just getting up. 
4. Find some quiet time.  This has the best result when it is done after work and before work.  Take some time to let go of the events at work and transition into home life.  Forgive people for their mistakes.  Forgive yourself for your shortcomings and praise yourself for accomplishments.  Exercise is an excellent way to work off stress and refocus your thoughts.  Repeating positive affirmations in the morning, prepares your mind for a good outcome.
5. Tidy up things at home.  When things are in order at home, you can fully focus at work.  Do things like balance your checkbook, make-up your bed when you awake, settle disagreements with friends and family members and make payments arrangements on unpaid bills.  The stress of home can easily carry over to work.  Keep things in order at home and your day is sure to improve.

Have a great work day!

Reference

How Many Hours of Sleep are Enough for Good Health? 

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"Working on Monday"- Networking in Business with Success

Networking is a connecting tool used by the most powerful business people in the world.  It brings ideas and resources together and solidifies many respectable careers.  The State of Michigan recognizes the brilliance of networking and consistently creates opportunities for workers and employers to interact.

The most famous networking happened on season 10 of The Apprentice with Donald Trump.  David Johnson from Portage, Michigan was a tough competitor.  He famously called "Marvin," the automated unemployment center, for financial check-in during an important task.  David's tough job interview with Trump allowed him to network with some of the most influential business minds in the world.  David is now running a successful business of his own.  His television exposure infused new life into his prior business connections and generated viable customers.  "It's a double edged sword," he said.  "I've had customers tell me, they don't won't to do biz with me and those who are curious about bringing me in (AOL jobs)."

Michigan Works! Interview

 

Michigan Works! the agency that facilitates many programs for unemployed workers, offered a wealth of advice in an interview, a few weeks back.  I sat down with Linda Gierlack a Business Services Field Representative, John Johnson and Robert McDonnell, Business Service Representatives, respectively.  Their insight into employer expectations and expertise in networking generated invaluable information for anyone looking to impress a perspective employer or make crucial business connections.

The Interview

How do you define networking?

Networking is connecting unused and/or underused people and resources.  Some of the most overlooked opportunities in networking  are within a person's own sphere of influence.  The first line of networking should happen with past employers, friends and neighbors. 

What are the different types of networking opportunities available?

Formal networking- connecting with professionals in your field.  This can happen at events and other organized venues.

Informal networking- talk to former co-workers and former customers.  There is not a reason to be ashamed of your current employment status.  Make sure you position yourself.  Positioning yourself means you are not just taking, it means you have the ability to give.  Good communication skills allow you to have back and forth dialogue, it is essential.

Social Media- Websites such as LinkedIn, Facebook and Twitter can be powerful virtual connections to potential employers.  It is difficult to replace face to face meetings, but social media has the potential to drive personal meetings. 

What are the main objectives a person should have when networking?

You must know your personal and professional goals.  This will guide your choices and identify the "right people" in your field.  It is important to develop an elevator speech and be able to articulate your skills.  You should never underestimate the potential of any conversation.  Be prepared with resumes, business cards and a great attitude.  

Who attends networking events?

People come together with common interests.  For example, human resource people come together to learn new laws.  If your career goals include HR, these events would be important to attend.  It is important to remember these events are not always labeled as "networking."  

What should you take to a networking event?

Your brand!  As perspective employees your brand is just as important as Donald Trump's or Kim Kardashian.  Their brands are well defined as well as broad.  Trump capitalizes on wealth and luxury, while Kardashian embraces beauty and sexuality.  You should know what you represent.  For example: quality, dependability, loyalty or team work.  Your brand is communicated in your dress, resume, business card and conversation.  Do not take anything for granted be prepared to talk about your skills, your ability to deliver services and most importantly, be prepared to listen.  Other things that come in abundance when you are seeking a job and/or making connections are objections and rejection.  Be prepared to handle no, it is not personal, it is just a part of the process.  

What should you do if you are undermined in a conversation?

Networking should take place in a relaxed environment.  However, the competitive nature of human beings can sometimes provoke tension.  If someone tries to hoard a conversation or make themselves look good at your expense, go talk to someone else; then come back and finish your conversation later.  If you feel your name or reputation is being compromised, defend yourself without leaving a bad impression.  This same plan of action can work with ex sabotaging co-workers or supervisors.  Unfortunately some people are only happy when they cause others pain. 

At the close of our interview I asked each of the Michigan Works! experts for closing advice.  Here are the last thoughts of an inspiring interview:

Linda Gierlack: "Stay positive!"  "A positive attitude can take you a long way."

John Johnson: "Build your own brand!" "Brand building is imperative, along with a personal mission statement."

Robert McDonnell: "Get out of the house!"  "It is easy to use the computer for job applications, but nothing beats personal contact."

My Final Thoughts

Networking is an activity that takes place daily, many times it is viewed as having small talk, being polite or passing time.  These misconceptions allow important professional connections to fail.  It is important to be aware of the potential conversations generate.  This extra energy put into focus, dialogue and thoughts can make a difference in the success of your career.  In other words, always be prepared.

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"Working on Monday"- A New Year's Review of Your Goals for Professional Development

The holidays are usually slow in the office.  A lot of people are on vacation and a lot of the work turmoil seems to quiet itself and prepare for the new year.  This does not happen in every industry, but for the majority of people it is a time of calm.  I encourage you to relax your worries and exercise your mind.

This is the perfect time to read and absorb the content of a good book.  Not just any book, but something that supports your professional development goals for the year.  Working on Monday began with action steps to discover and effectively live out your career dreams.  As you live out your written plan, the realities of life should shape your direction and perfect your plans. I am not suggesting that you change your dreams with every difficult circumstance.  I want you to listen to the wisdom of life as it shares its invaluable truth. 

One of the best ways to hear the instructions of life is reflection.  This is a week that can be used to take inventory and make the destination to your dreams more successful.  As your discoveries unfold here are some useful questions to ask yourself.

1. What challenges have I ignored?  There are many things that happen in our lives that are easier to forget.  However, if you are ignoring problems because they are too difficult to face, it is a strong possibility these unresolved issues are holding you back.  
2. What do I need to change in order to reach my goals?  Have you ever heard the saying "doing things the same way and expecting a change is insanity?"  It is true.  If you want to move to the next phase of your dreams you have to give up doing things that cause you to fail.  If that means waking up an hour earlier or surrounding yourself with different people, do not be afraid of making necessary arrangements.  
3. What accomplishments have I made?  If you are trying to make positive changes in your life, simply making the decision is a milestone.  It is important to know you have done some good.  This makes adjustments less intimidating.  
4. Is my life well rounded?  Pursuing a career is part of what gives a person satisfaction in life.  It is also important to make time for friends, family, rest and recreation.  A well rounded life addresses the multiple needs of the sometimes complicated human being.  
5. What are the one or two major areas of change I want to focus on?  Pursuing your dreams and making positive changes can be overwhelming.  You have an entire life time to live out your dreams and many times that is how long it takes.  Tackling one or two areas of change at a time is manageable.  Many times you can resolve other issues without the additional mental strain.  

This list is short and you can certainly add your own thoughts and ideas.  Make sure you take time out to center yourself and start the new year with a fresh perspective.  Reviewing your goals for professional development is certainly worth your time.  

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Working on Monday- Creating Positive Work Relationships

Working in a stressful work environment is a source of workplace burn-out.  Going to work can become a task of emotional strength and a test of your mental endurance when you are feeling overwhelmed.  The cause of much stress at work is relationships.  Strained relationships can create worry, fear and insecurity.

Looking back on my work history many of my difficult times were caused by poor relationships.  These connections stirred anxiety within me and made being at work unpleasant.  From poor managers to over competitive co-workers being in conflict with another person causes confusion.

Bad relationships sabotage workplace success.  They prevent your ideas from being considered, it ruins support and it makes people suspicious of your intentions.  They are a handicap to securing workplace success and must be worked out. 

A bad working relationship is something that should not be ignored.  The negative consequences can snowball and contaminate other areas of your work life.  Here are some ways to improve and/or avoid troubled work relationships.

1. Ask questions at the interview.  It is important to know your needs in a workplace setting.  Knowing your needs will allow you to evaluate a company's ability to match your work style.  You will also be able to determine if you can accept certain differences and still be effective in the environment.  
2. Address tension in your relationships.  If you see a co-worker is upset try to find out why and rectify the issue.  Avoiding a misunderstanding can lead too more hurt feelings and a more difficult solution.  
3. Always talk to all parties concerned.  Many times people blame others for their misfortunes.  It is unethical to hold another person guilty of an accusation without speaking to the person.  They may have a perfectly good excuse or you may find the person making the accusations is really the guilty party.  If a person shares unfavorable information about another co-worker with you and swears you too secrecy, beware.  Without a way to verify the story suspend judgment of the accused.  How would you feel if you were not able to defend yourself?
4. Avoid workplace gossips.  Have you ever met a person that seems to know everything about everybody?  Avoid them like the plague.  How do they know intimate details about people who do not even speak to them?  The information they are spreading is either false or obtained using questionable means.  A person's privacy should not be violated, especially in the workplace.  Leaking embarrassing and/or false information about people is a sure way to destroy relationships.  Make sure you form your opinion about another person based on your relationship with them, not another person's opinion.  
5. Set clear boundaries and respect the boundaries of other co-workers.  Nothing makes people angrier than stepping on their toes.  Make sure you are within your territory with projects and decisions.  If you are unsure rally support and make a group decision.  If others are interfering with your work speak up!  It is important to have respect at work.

Relationships can be complicated and sometimes take a lot of work.  The efforts you put into creating solid connections can only pay off in the end.  Learn about yourself and how to relate to others.  People make institutions work and people help others succeed.

If you are aware of someone spreading rumors about a co-worker report them.  Social sabotage is a crime that destroys relationships.  Please help stop social undermining.

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"Working on Monday" - Polices, Procedures and Your Personal Image

The workplace is one of the most complex and diverse entities in business.  It is a combination of ideas, people, money, services and emotions that must harmoniously function in unity for the best results.  The workplace is not like a math problem, 1+1 is always going to equal 2.  The workplace is more subjective.  Personal perception is what makes a client satisfied.  Personal perception is what makes one employee seem more capable of a promotion over another.  It is these personal perceptions that can make or break a career.  It is these personal perceptions that make a person more marketable on the east coast, as opposed to the west coast.  Knowing the policies and procedures of your business along with skillfully managing your professional image will accelerate your career and make you more marketable.

Policies and Procedures

Policies and procedures are written for several reasons.  They help define a company's standards for  customer service, they articulate what steps should be followed for consistent delivery of products and services and they help employees meet company expectations.  They can also be used to evaluate your job performance, among other things.  In the nut shell, polices and procedures are important!  It is also important to know if your interpretation of the rules lines up with the company's and/or your manager's understanding.  This is what makes the workplace such a subjective environment.  Your understanding of any given rule can be distinctly differently from that of another person.  It is very important that you are on the same page with your workplace. 

Normally new employees get employee manuals, do not just throw it in the trash.  Take time read the company's expectations.  New employee manuals are only the surface of the rules.  There are other policies that should describe your work.  Read these and begin to use the same language when you are communicating with your superiors.  Know your job description like your favorite song, it will always guide you and allows you to set clear boundaries.  

Unfortunately all businesses are not always organized.  Even more unfortunate, sometimes your boss is a jerk and tries to keep you from learning.  Use the Internet!  It is full of all kinds of helpful information.  You can read job descriptions, policy and procedure manuals from other companies, find informative articles about your area of expertise and much more.  I would also suggest keeping notes of what you are doing at work and how it demonstrates following policies and procedures.  This will come in handy during a performance review.  It is also helpful if questions arise about your work performance.  This kind of research requires dedication to your chosen profession.  If you are not willing to become an expert, maybe you are pursuing the wrong career.  

Your Personal Image

How does personal image tie into policies and procedures?  Well your ability to do a task is one thing, but the way in which you do it is another.  If you are perceived as a sloppy, slow or stand-offish your ability to do a job will not matter.  The workplace is comprised of people with feelings, beliefs and temperaments.  If your image is incompatible with the those of your co-workers, you will not fit into the team.  

People that are not wanted on the team get a hard time.  They are criticized and constantly scrutinized.  Any infraction of the rules is made to be detrimental.  If the policies and procedures are followed perfectly, the only other means of attack is personal.  Your co-workers can complain about your dress, hair, nails or personal style.  You can even dress professionally and have impeccable style, but there will be a false perception that makes it appear to be bad.  They will find anything to make you stand out, seem to cause problems and feel isolated.  

One of the most important aspects of your personal image to develop is communication.  Excellent communication skills will allow almost anyone to relate to you.  This gives people a sense of comfort and makes them want you around.  You can read books about communication, personality types and having difficult conversations.  Practice talking to different people, listen to their stories and learn about different cultures.  

Do not be discouraged if you have difficultly in any of these areas.  You do not have to be an expert overnight.  We are all works in progress, begin where you are and diligently work to improve your knowledge of policies and procedure, along with your personal image. 

Resources 

Employee Manuals- an article on HumanResources.com 

Communication Skills for Lifelong Relationships- an informative article on Discovery Health

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"Working on Monday" Part 7- Transition to Depth and Understanding of the Workplace

It is a transitional time for "Working on Monday."  We have done some amazing work by executing the action plans I created.  Let's review:

1. Write down where you want to be in the next twenty-five years.  
2. (a) Pick five companies you want to work for- research their history and culture. (b) Research the lifestyle you want to live in twenty-five years.  
3. Join an organization (your church does not count).
4. Press, do not quit!
5. Set and write down your short term goals- one month, 6 months, 3 years.
6. Write out your work history in an autobiographical form.
7. Reflect on the information you have compiled in action plans one through six.
8. Create actual steps to reach your long and short term goals.
9. Think about the competition- how are you going to rise above and overcome them?
10. Make note of how you spend your time for three or four days.
11. Review your time journal and make a schedule.
12. Stick to your schedule.
13. Organize your work autobiography into short memorable phrases. 
14. Get a personal calling card.
15. Strike up conversations everywhere and be prepared to speak about yourself in a professional and positive manner.

Now we are going to take a deeper look at the workplace and how it operates.  The above steps are preparation for the workplace, but you also have to be prepared to function in the workplace. Topics such as human resources, discrimination, networking, politics and office etiquette will be covered.  In addition to these discussions, small business subjects will also be examined for entrepreneurs.

There may be more action plans, but we will revisit the above action plans and get a full understanding of how they fit into the workplace environment. 

This transition presents you with another opportunity to complete and/or revise your action plans.  Remember you are growing and your plans should be revised to reflect your growth. 

Until next Monday...

"Working on Monday" Part 6- Making Personal Connections and Introducing Yourself to the World

This week we are taking action!  We have gathered information about ourselves, dreams and goals.  Now it is time to share our discoveries!  I do not mean spelling out your dreams to everyone, remember, dreams are special and should be shared with caution.  I mean letting people know you are on the market and what you can do for them.  It is time to make personal connections and introduce yourself to the world.  The people you strike up conversations with in the grocery store could lead to your next job.

You could be talking to the wife of an executive, the son of an entrepreneur, a human resources representative looking to fill a position or someone that will refer you during a conversation with his friends.  These people all have something in common, it is called reach.  Reach also known as word-of-mouth advertising can work for you.  People generally want to help.  Word-of-mouth advertising is an easy way for people to participate in your journey.  You just need a message and a calling card!

I am Shy

I have leaned from my own personal experience.  If you are hungry and really want to make your dreams come true, you can overcome shyness.   This is a time for you to shine and let people know who you are and what you can accomplish.  It is not rude to speak of your strengths and strong work ethic.  This is what people need to know, they are putting trust in you to complete important tasks.  Let them know you are capable and the best person for the job!  Passion stimulates courage and gets the job done!

Action Step Twelve:
Organize your work autobiography from step 6, into small memorable phases. Here is an example of a conversation:
Monday: "Hi, how are you today?"
Stranger: "I am okay, just doing some shopping."
Monday: "Me too, I have been really watching my budget.  I have been unemployed for about 6 weeks."
Stranger: "That is too bad.  My son is looking for work, but has not had any luck."
Monday: "I need money to survive, but I miss comforting patients and families in their time of need more than anything.  I am a chaplain by trade, specializing in bereavement care and staff education."
Stranger: "My sister works for hospice.  She says the chaplains are wonderful.  Have you tried any hospices?
Monday: "Yes, it is very rewarding work. I worked closely with them in the hospital.  They have always done an amazing job."
Stranger: "I wonder if they need chaplains where my sister works?"
Monday: "Here let me give you my information.  I really appreciate your concern.  You can contact me anytime."
Stranger: "It was really nice meeting you Monday, I will be in touch."
Monday: "It was nice meeting you too. Have a great day!"

It is just that easy!  I would suggest role playing or talking in front of the mirror to practice.  You want to sound natural, but professional and knowledgeable.  Knowing how to articulate who you are and what skills you have to offer helps people take you seriously.

Action Step Thirteen:
Get a personal calling card.  Here are some great examples at Elizabeth Anne Designs.

Having a social calling card with pertinent information shows professionalism.  Everything you do communicates what you have to offer.  The way you dress, your hair, make-up, your speech and body language.  This does not mean you should change yourself.  If you are a cowboy, be the cleanest cowboy around.  If you are a fitness guru, where neat, matching fitness attire.  If you are a stay at home mom, where neat clothing, do your hair and make-up.  Show people you are worth their money, time and investment.  

Action Step Fourteen:
Practice often.  Strike up conversations everywhere and be prepared to talk about yourself is a professional and positive manner.

Even if your conversation does not lead to a business connection, you are letting the universe know you are ready.

Here is a great article by Chris Brogan: Presentation Tune-Ups.  An audience of one or two is just as important as hundreds.  Make sure people know you value them. 

photo credits: abstract-living.com, daromancejournal.com

"Working on Monday" Part 5- Time Management Will Change Your Life

Welcome back to "Working on Monday!"  I have been unemployed for five weeks now.  It has been a  gradual transition.  Part of my former job was being on-call 24/7.  It was difficult if not impossible to make plans because a life threatening event could need my attention at any given time.  I found myself waiting for my pager to go off and suddenly remembering, hey, you do not work anymore, relax.  Working over sixty hours a week at all hours of the day and night and then suddenly being left with an open calendar has been a tough adjustment.  My life being released from such an unpredictable schedule is now in need of order.  Our topic this week, time management.

"Working on Monday" a Practical Perspective 

I have come to this conclusion, success is a lifestyle.  People try to lose weight going from diet to diet.  They only find success when they change the way they live.  Super star athletes are major competitors because they train, this is their lifestyle.  What happens when a person is addicted to drugs?  They live to get high!  Drug addiction is a lifestyle.  A lifestyle is built by the things we do with our time.  

Now that we are working with the assumption that success is a lifestyle, it is vital to remember what type of lifestyle we seek.  You can be successful at anything.  You can be a successful failure, loser and abuser.  Many times we do not even practice for the parts we play in life.  They are ingrained in us by life and our families of origin (Cattapan and Grimwade).
   
Action Plan 10:
Make note of how you spend your time for the next four days.  What time do you wake-up?  How much time do you spend watching television?

What do Successful People do with Their Time?

Time Magazine wrote an article able Nelson Mandela.  It celebrated his ninetieth birthday, by discussing his principles of leadership.  From this article I extrapolated how Nelson Mandela spent his time.

1. Inspiring others to participate in his cause.
2. Thinking about relevant events and circumstances
3. Planing 
4. Reading books of wisdom and instruction 
5. Meeting with his colleagues and discussing current events and topics that impacted his causes
6. Listening 
7. Learning about his enemy
8. Persuading people to support his ideas

 

Action Plan 11:
Look at how you spend your time.  Take out the unnecessary things and make a schedule.

Action Plan 12:
Stick to your schedule and only make changes that lead to success.     

"Working on Monday" a Spiritual Perspective

The book of Acts is the story of how the new covenant church began.  The church grew by thousands daily, but it was not without persecution and dedication.  In Acts chapters one and two, Jesus ascends into heaven and the disciples go to the upper room and prepare for the Holy Spirit.  The disciples were making a lifestyle change.  They had gone from the security of following Jesus to preparing for living the unknown.  This is what is happening to us.  You are leaving behind the familiar and grabbing hold of change to live out your dreams. 

Spiritual Lessons Learned from Acts 1 and 2

1.  Do not stand still looking into heaven waiting for Jesus to return.  Go prepare for your destiny.
2. Preparation involves prayer.
3. Action involves the Holy Spirit.
4. You will be able to speak to people that think and speak a different language.  For example you will be able to communicate with business people that specialize in different areas of expertise.
5. People will look for reasons to underestimate your excellence, but your words and conviction will win them over.
6. God will give you power and courage to do impossible things! 

Next week is a big week.  We are taking action!  Make sure you are caught up and ready to move!

References

Cattapan, O., & Grimwade, J. (2008). Parental Illicit Drug Use and Family Life: Reports From Those Who Sought Help. Australian & New Zealand Journal of Family Therapy, 29(2), 77-87. Retrieved from Academic Search Complete database.

Time Magazine: Mandela- His 8 Lessons of Leadership

Stepcase Lifehack: Fifty Habits of Highly Successful People

The New York Times: How Different Groups Spend Their Time

"Working on Moday" Part 4- Raw Determination!

"Working on Monday" is not just about finding a job, it is about living your dream.  It takes courage to pursue what seems impossible.  It takes a raw determination to reach above the expectations of others and be true to yourself.  This is the core concept of Empowered Peace.  Honoring the creation God crafted and made you.

A reminder from last week, we are not going to have any new action plans this week.  This will be a week to complete and refine the tasks of the last three weeks.  As you approach these steps pay attention to your thoughts.  Immediately replace thoughts of defeat with positive affirmations.  You will have enough opposition, so be your own best friend!

This week I am going to talk about one of the driving forces you need to pursue your dreams, Determination.  Many great lives have been built with determination. The following clip is of Chris Gardner.  His inspirational story was captured in the movie The Pursuit of Happyness, intentionally spelled incorrectly.  Mr. Gardner states the 'y' is for you and your dreams.  Listen to the following clip.

This video tells me we are doing the right thing at the right time.  It does not matter how crazy people think you are, it does not matter who does or does not believe in you and it does not matter who tries to sabotage your plans.  What does matter is the dream.  It is the time to make your dreams a reality.  It took gritty, raw determination for Chris Gardner to get his brokerage license while being homeless.  He had an unstoppable attitude that shaped his pristine work ethic.  You do not have any excuses not to succeed, only excuses to hold you in a life of crumbled yesterdays. 

Chris Gardner has some other advice to help you reach your goals.

1. "The Calvary isn't coming!" (words of wisdom from his mother)
2. "Baby steps count too!" (Rev. Cecil Williams, Founder of Glide, the homeless shelter where Chris Gardner stayed with his son)

As you complete and refine your goals know that you are not alone.  Your dream is your purpose, your career and the key to "Working on Monday."
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