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Monday, October 25, 2010

"Working on Monday" Part 2

Welcome back to "Working on Monday!" It has been quite a week. Let's review the action plans from last week.

Action Plan 1:
Where do you want to be in twenty-five years? Write out your dreams, do not hold back.

Action Plan 2a:
Pick five companies you want to work for and research their history and culture.

Action Plan 2b:
Go back to your twenty-five year plan and research the history and culture of where you are heading.

Action Plan 3:
Join a club or organization. Pick something that mirrors your values and has meaning to you. Your religious organization does not count.

Writing the vision of where I wanted to be in twenty-five years certainly changed my priorities. I found myself making changes in the way I made decisions. I have been trying to kick fast food for a long time, and this exercise made me seriously pause. I thought about that Big Mac and how my health is an essential part of enjoying my twenty-five year dream. I did not completely give up the fast food, but I cooked more this week then I have in a long time. It was because I had a direction for my future. What changes did planning have on your decisions?

One of the struggles I had this week was feeling defeated. The estimation of our victories in life is tied to what we accomplish. Being terminated from my job was rejection and it fueled the heaviness of defeat that tried to overtake me. It tried to convince me I would never amount to anything in life. Defeat was a fog that loomed on my shoulders and it made me consider giving up. What thoughts and/or feelings did you struggle with last week?

As we work through this process, I encourage you to journal this experience. It will help you grasp a better understanding of yourself and put you in the habit of note taking. Keeping impeccable notes is a key to success in business. Documentation goes a long way when jerks try to get in your way.

"Working on Monday" a Practical Perspective

My feelings of defeat did not stop me from moving forward. I may have hesitated at times, but I worked my action plans and made progress. If you did not complete every step, don't give up! Keep going, you can do it! Do NOT let defeat and fear bind you.

Action Plan 4:

When you are feeling like you want to quit, PRESS!!!

Using this time to get a better understanding of the workplace is crucial. Let's go back to Machiavelli. He counsels the prince on how to keep power in a composite principality. A composite is a new principality joined to an old state. Starting a new job or securing your first assignment as an entrepreneur makes you the new kid on the block. People are depending on you to complete certain tasks, but you have to remember POWER is always the name of the game. People are sizing you up and judging how you are going to fit into the established structure. You have to learn to form alliances and silence your critics.

Determining how this new position is going to fit into your long-term plan will help. It will help you know if this job is long or short term, who to befriend, ignore and hold accountable if necessary. Hopefully your long range dreams have begun to shape what you are doing today.

Action Plan 5:

Begin to make short term goals. Where do you want to be in six months? Where do you want to be in one year? How does it line up with your long term plan? Make adjustments until it all fits.

Action plan 5 will help you determine if the job I discussed above is even worth taking. Do not waste your time on things that have nothing to do with your dreams. Stay focused! You are interviewing the workplace the same as they are interviewing you. You are smart, you are powerful, you are focused and you have dreams, do not be afraid to function in the confidence this generates.

The process of going back to work means job interviews. You have to have your story straight. I was feeling pretty bad because my work history sucks. Then I began to think, many famous people failed several times before they "made it." It is not any different in the business world, do not let your past determine your future. Nobody has a perfect work history. Comparing yourself to an imaginary perfection is ridiculous. The very nature of life is imperfect, what makes you think anyone has a perfect career.

Action Plan 6:

Write out your work history in the form of an autobiography. You have nothing to be ashamed of, this is the experience you are bringing to the company. A maturity that has reflected on past mistakes and victories, which have made you a better person. Tell your story with honesty, sincerity and wisdom. Embrace who you are, work it and be proud!

"Working on Monday" a Spiritual Perspective

We are going to continue with the story of Joseph, Genesis 39. Joseph made his way out of the pit and into Potiphar's house, the chief officer of the pharaoh. God had favor on Joseph and everything he did was successful. Potiphar saw the good work Joseph did, and that God was blessing his work. This lead to a promotion for Joseph and he was the head man. Potiphar's wife began to desire Joseph and she harassed him. She wanted to have an affair with Joseph. He continually refused because he had good character. Potiphar's wife finally got Joseph alone and Joseph ran leaving some of his clothing behind. Potiphar's wife lied and got Joseph fired. He was thrown into prison, another tough break on the way to his dreams.

Spiritual Lessons Learned from Genesis 39

God is with you and He blesses your work.
Sexual harassment still exists, be prepared to handle it.
People may falsely accuse you of their bad behavior.
If your next job does not work out, it is not the end!
God is with you, even when major setbacks happen.
Don't allow people's bad behavior and lies destroy your dream.
God will make you prosper, even in the 'prison' experiences of your life.

As we wrap things up for the week, I would like to encourage you to continue working on your actions plans from week one. If you did not complete them, it is not too late. Complete your action steps for week two and enjoy the accomplishments you are making during this process.

Turn in some resumes and PRESS!

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Thursday, October 21, 2010

Bipolar Disorder: Living and Working with People that are Bipolar

Bipolar disorder is not a friendly disease. It puts an added layer of difficulty on interpersonal relationships and is a conduit for chaos. I have worked with people with Bipolar disease, one was confirmed and the other I suspected. Their behavior made work impossible, it was destructive and intrusive. I felt powerless against their undermining and cunning ways. They never took responsibility for their actions and incredibly convinced others I was the problem. I can not over emphasize how destructive working with Bipolar people has been to me and my family.

Bipolar disorder also known as manic depression is a serious disorder. It is characterised by periods of depression followed by periods of mania. A person experiencing the depression phase of the disease may be suicidal, have mood swings, or be fatigued. The manic phase can be identified by hyperactivity, lack of self-control and inflated self-esteem (Google Health).

I was introduced to this season in my life by another personality conflict with a Bipolar person. The effects of their behavior were almost identical. They both managed to convince people I was the problem and even worse, some participated in their deception. I was falsely accused by the perpetrator, classic! It happens in most abusive situations. The perpetrators are professional liars. Who better knows the story than the one creating the problem, it is easy for them to make false allegations because they know the story from beginning to end. People who do not manage their Bipolar disorder are unable to control their behavior and to survive they blame the victim. This is unacceptable! Employers must use reliable outside investigators to properly evaluate such disturbing situations.

My fault lies in being a doormat! I always felt it was the Christian thing to do and culturally my family taught me to have a debased attitude and submit to everyone, even people that treated me badly, what a crock! These misconceptions have caused me to allow sick people to steal vital pieces of my identity and masquerade it as their own. The shame and humiliation I feel because of these violations is sometimes paralysing. The good news is I have a new understanding of Christian submission. I also know that the debilitating anchor my parents innocently attached to my soul is unhealthy. It is right to only accept and expect respectful treatment and hold people accountable for their bad behavior.

What I want you to know. You do not have to be a victim! God did not create you to be the trash can of every one's hostility. You have a right to expect and command respect, it does not make you rude, it makes you Empowered. You can demand respect in a dignified manner, you do not have to behave like those who seek to oppress you.

I encourage you to learn about Bipolar disorder and protect yourself. I encourage people with Bipolar disorder to take their medications and to be honest about their problems. It is an injustice that others should have to suffer and carry the burden of your lies. Employers wake up, stand up and do the right thing. Stop allowing sick people run the workplace. It sets a bad example for those in moral obscurity and penalizes people doing the right thing. It is not fair that employees are obligated to lie, all to support and protect a person that needs help.

We all have a right to live a life of Empowered Peace. I'm setting my record straight and if you have been a victim of similar circumstances, I encourage you to take a stand. Doormats are for the porch and false humility is not fit for humanity!

Important Resources

The Equality Act of 2010

In Crisis

The USDA Handbook on Workplace Violence

National 1-800 Crisis Hotline

The National Institute of Mental Health

What is Bipolar Disorder?

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Monday, October 18, 2010

"Working on Monday" Part 1- The Journey Begins

Welcome to "Working on Monday!" This week I am going to focus on plotting our path to paid employment. I'm not just talking about a job, I'm talking about your life's purpose. The pathway to your destiny. I have worked since I was 15 years old. My experiences have been an unequal mix of tolerable and terrible workplaces. The weight of the scales rests on some pretty terrible work experiences. I am taking the bad, worst and awful and creating life lessons for "Working on Monday." I have come to the conclusion that business as usual is dead.

"Working on Monday" a Practical Perspective

Let's get right into it! I have always been an idealistic person. Since the age of twelve I had dreams of changing the world for good. The problem with this statement is not the goodness I wanted to impregnate the world with, but the lack of clear planning. A dream is important, but you have to plan to reach your dreams.

Where do you want to be in twenty-five years? Yes, twenty-five years, successful businesses have long term strategic plans in place. If we are going to be relevant and living our dreams in the future, the planning and action needs to take place today. Everything we do in this series is going to be strategic!

Action Plan 1:
Write out where you want to be in twenty-five years. Don't spare any details. Where do you want to live? Where do you want to work? What kinds of relationships do you have? How much money do you want? Dream! Don't settle for less than your best in this twenty-five year vision.

Since business as usual is not reaping the results I desire, I have to change. I have always thought my job was to finish my work with excellence and go home. If that was all that is required, I would be the CEO of Pepsi! It takes more than quality work to make it in business. You have to understand and participate in politics with skill. I have always hated politics, I thought people that practiced them were suck ups and phonies. They are just smart! If you are not apart of politics, believe me, politics will be working you!

In the book The Prince, by Niccolo Machiavelli he discusses his analysis of the psychology of man. Machiavelli is known for his unethical approach to politics. I am not suggesting you compromise your integrity, quite the contray. Know your enemy. The business world is dog eat dog, and if you are going to live your dream, you have to run with the big dogs! Many people practice a Machiavellian approach to business called realpolitik. The name of the game is POWER! I never cared about power, only helping people and doing the right thing. I have learned you can not make it on lofty ideals alone.

Machiavelli suggests there are two types of principalities, new or established. Established principalities are inherited and ruled by families for generations. A modern day example of an established principality is Ford Motor Company. How does this relate to you? Every company you work for has a culture. You have to learn that culture and work within it to fulfill your dreams.

Action Plan 2a:
Pick five companies you want to work for and learn their history and culture.

Action Plan 2b:
Go back to your twenty-five year plan and learn about the history and culture of the life you want to live.

Staying actively engaged with other business people will help you network, stay sharp and have fun. Most companies want you to apply for a job online. It is tough to get noticed. Engaging in community events and organizations is crucial.

Action Plan 3:
Join an organization or club. Pick something that has meaning to you and mirrors your values and life dreams. Your religious organization does not count.

"Working on Monday" a Spiritual Perspective

Genesis chapter 37 tells the story of a young Joseph. He had big dreams that made his siblings turn from tolerating him, to hating him. They plotted his death to kill his dreams (Genesis 37:20). This is a story God uses to share the importance of your dreams. Joseph's brothers didn't want to get rid of Joseph, they wanted to kill his dreams. Don't let anyone steal your dreams, your dreams are more valuable than your life. A man without a dream is spiritually dead. One of Joseph's brothers suggested that they not kill him, a divine intervention designed by God. He said let us just throw him in a pit. Unemployment, under employment or working a job you hate is like being in the pit. Can you imagine how Joseph felt? He must have felt betrayed, hurt, afraid and worried about his future. Can you relate?

Spiritual Lessons Learned from Genesis 37

You can not share your dreams with everyone. Your big dreams will stir hatred in envious people, including envious family members.
People will act upon their hate. Don't be surprised when people attack you.
God always supplies help in a hopeless situation.
You can get thrown in the pit on your way to destiny. It is not the end, only the beginning.
Jealous people will lie to destroy you, even if it hurts their own family.
God uses your trouble to shape and mold you for your destiny.
Your dreams are a preview of your ultimate destiny.

Other Things to Consider

Make sure you file for unemployment. I encourage you to explore your states website and learn about the possible benefits available to you. We will discuss this in more detail as we continue our process to paid employment.

The next thing you should do is beef up your resume. Here are some good websites: Resumes and Resume Writing Services, Purdue Online Writing Lab and monster.com

Until next "Working on Monday"...
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Saturday, September 18, 2010

Workplace Worries and Badly Behaving Bullies

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The workplace is the second, if not the first home to a majority of working people. Your job can be full of good friends, supportive supervisors and friendly potlucks but increasingly the workplace has become a war zone. Employers and employees alike actively seek out individuals to harass and humiliate. This terrorist mentality causes absenteeism, medical expenses, mental and emotional exhaustion, lower wages, character assassination and termination of employment. According to Time Magazine many states are following the lead of New York's Healthy Workplace Bill and cracking down on workplace violence.

Bullycide

The media is not at a loss for stories about bullying. In fact, a new term has been created for the act of suicide caused by bullying, "Bullycide." Here are some of the victims: Phoebe Prince, Megan Meier, Karl Peart, Gemma Dimmick, Jodie Zebell and Brodie Panlock just to name a few. These people were called names, the subject of gossip, victimized by vicious rumors and continually made to feel unworthy by their bullies. The continual marginalization and the increased power of the bully became overwhelming and they eventually committed suicide. They were finally convinced that what the bullies said was true and there was not any help or hope to fix things. This is such a sick travesty, bullies actually enjoy the pain of their victims. Chances are you have been a victim, are a victim or know someone that has been or is being victimized. I want you to know you are not alone.

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Why Do People Bully?

Fear: People are afraid of many things. Job loss in today's economy is certainly one of them. People who are working are willing to use unethical means to keep their jobs. This is unfortunate and many times fear comes in the form of bullying and a mentality of "only the strong survive."
Insecurity: Many people are insecure and anyone they perceive as capable of 'getting ahead' of them is a target.
Jealousy: Old fashioned jealousy fumes many flames. A lack of values, misdirection and unrealistic expectations lead people to hate others. The hate comes from feeling they deserve something more and proceed to take it from another person.
Power: How seductive is power? Power used in the wrong way creates bullying.
Control: Bullies like to have control over everything, especially the life of their victim. They are unable to maintain a peace of mind without suppressing their victim, the person becomes as a possession or toy. Managing their own lives would require introspection and most bullies feel it is too painful or scary to face their demons.

How to Survive Your Bully

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You can allow bullies to steal your peace and joy. This is a spiritual poison that breaks the heart of many lost souls. Continued exposure to this behavior can make you sad, discouraged, depressed, anxious, distracted and unproductive. The best way to handle a bully is to minimize these effects. You have to find a positive in-flow to counteract their negativity. Religion, friends, prayer, worship, arts and crafts and spiritual renewal are all examples of positive actions. You may feel like giving up or not participating but these things help!

Take notes of the activity happening at work. Use this information wisely and at the right time.
Don't allow the bully's rumors and lies to define who you are. Read affirmations and repeat them to remind yourself of your value.
Confront your bully with a calm ethic. Yelling or bad behavior will only get you in trouble and make your bully's lies more believable.
Report this activity to human resources. Tell them about the hostile environment your bully is causing and ask for help.
Educate yourself about workplace bullying and find a support group.
Consult an attorney.
Ride out the storm. From a spiritual perspective, some lessons are taught over and over again until you walk completely through the situation. This can be scary and very uncomfortable, but by educating yourself on your situation, prayer and acting with integrity you can win.
Never give up!

!!!Special Note!!!

This is to all of you who see someone being victimized and harassed at work. SAY SOMETHING!!! Confront the bully, stick up for your co-worker and refuse to tolerate this nonsense. Report the incidents to human resources and keep notes. You do not want the guilt of thinking you could have done something when it is too late.