I got this epiphany while watching Oprah, Behind the Scenes. One of her guests was late and caused the staff to make arrangements with other guests and audiences. It was a big mess because other obstacles presented themselves. This caused a rift between Oprah and the guest because Oprah did not understand why her guest would cause these problems. Oprah confronted her guest, off camera, and got the answers she needed to be at peace. They proceeded to have a good show and positive relationship after the show.
This situation really resonated with me. I thought how many times have I let people hurt me and never say anything. I have to continue to be around some of these people and the relationship goes to crap! I do not trust the person and everything they do is perceived to be a personal attack. The other person probably has harsh feelings towards me as well. How can you trust someone that is withholding and gives you phony smiles.
How much wasted time and energy! It can be very frightening to confront people when they offend you. You are unsure of how they will react, and most times you just want people to like you. The problem is the unresolved feelings do not go away! They fester and grow into bigger problems and eventually the relationship is destroyed.
Taking a swallow and a deep breath, then going forward to discuss your feelings is purifying! It allows you to let go of negative energy and do something constructive. What you are really doing is creating an environment of understanding. When people understand each other relationships grow and prosper. Take care of your unfinished business and hurt feelings with others! A power nugget to living an Empowered life!
photo via: miladayteam.blogspot.com via Google images
No comments:
Post a Comment
Join the conversation!