Empowered and In Love- A Guest Post by Kelli Dussault of My Life Downstream

As promised I have another great guest post for you!  Kelli Dussault blogs over at "My Life Downstream."  Her posts are incredibly touching.  They give the reader an insight into their own soul and allows them to make changes with dignity.  I have enjoyed reading Kelli's work for a while now and I am honored to have her share with you.  You can find her contact information at the end of this post.

They say no one can take your power away unless you give it to them. I agree with that to some extent, although sometimes it seems people can sneak in and razzle~dazzle you and before you know it you are tap dancing around, doing what you think they want you to do, being who you think they want you to be. This is especially prevalent when you're dating.

Why is it that when you meet someone new, you are fully being your wonderful amazing, the only you like yourself and then you slowly start to change. You start second guessing yourself, you want to hurry things along, seal the deal, make this happen and then you go into fear.
You start trying to be more of what you think he might like you to be, being different, being better.. as if that were even possible.

We want so much for this (relationship) to last, for him to stay, perhaps forever, we decide, mostly unconsciously that we are going to be the perfect partner. Wow, really? What does being the perfect partner even mean?

For a lot of us, we can want something to work so badly that we lose ourselves, give up our power, our pride, and that my friends is where it all goes downhill, quickly. We do things we don't necessarily want to do, and when he doesn't do the same for us we pout, we withhold (and you know what I mean), we whine, we bitch and moan. Yea, 'cause that's sexy right?

You want to be the best most amazing, most alluring partner you can be? Here's the secret, take back your power and just be you. Yep, that's right, I know it sounds simple, but it isn't easy.

Being fully in your power is knowing what you want, being who you are, completely, and allowing someone to love you. I know it can be scary, who's gonna love me just for being me?

The person who is brought to you by spirit, the one who just shows up one day as if by magic. The one so perfect for you that you don't have to give up your power for, and it doesn't even occur to you to be that foolish.  You don't feel the need to change a thing, everything just seems to fall into place.

I have done relationships both ways, the give up your power/ try to make something happen, and the allowing/keeping your power relationships.  I have to say, when you just be you, and have faith, what you are supposed to get, what you are supposed to learn will just show up without any manipulation on your part... Now that's powerful.
xo-K

Only love is real, nothing else exists... ~Marianne Williamson
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